Transcript Women Hitting Men
Transcript Women Hitting Men
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Welcome to real raw with dr. B this nationally published author and pastor has made it his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other with 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for real roar with dr. B.
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Oh my goodness.
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Yes. This is doc a B, and a. We here to help you stay more connected with your loved one. We here to make sure you are strong and not weak in what you are going through in your life. So hopefully you will tell a neighbor, tell a friend, Hey, that, that doctor BS on that, dr. B is going to try to take you guys to your life and journey. All right. So also some of you know that by God’s grace, I am also in doing comedy.
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Yeah. And I’ll be at the moment he can sign. Yeah. And you can get your tickets. You can go to my, my website, dr. TC brantley.com go to my comedy area and get information from there. And hopefully I see you there at the Mohegan sun on that particular day. All right. So we’ll come back and do another announcement about that. So let’s talk. Can we talk? So there’s a thing on TV called a marriage bootcamp.
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And in this marriage boot camp, there was an incident that went down when the rappers, I think Vedo, veto, something like that. And, and so the woman was throwing apples and hurling insults, and just being real nasty toward her husband or boyfriend.
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I think it was a boyfriend. And so she’s throwing apples. I mean, she, I mean, she hit him right in their head with the Apple. I mean, damn and well, the department, the department two apples, but it sounds like there was more than two. And so, you know, that went on for awhile. All right. That went on for awhile. And then, you know, she, she, he was sitting at a table and then, you know, she, she, she, she pushed her a chair on the table.
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I mean, she was kinda being angled, say the word, but she kinda being, so when they got the couples together, when they got a couple of together, hear me laughing, doing that. When I got a couple of together, all of a sudden the brothers snapped. I mean, he snapped. He, he yoked her up. Yeah. He, he, he yoked her up. Now, all of a sudden now he got pushed off the, the show because of the violence that he did told the girl, I have a problem with that.
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The problem, I don’t have a problem with them taking him off the show. I’m getting trouble with this one. Fuck him. She to take off the show. I do believe throwing apples at a man is being violent. I don’t listen. It is good for the goose is good for the Gander. Alright. So you know, the problem with society today is that sometimes they say, well, you know, because there’s a woman and the woman is doing it to you.
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It’s all right. No, it is not all right for a woman to hit you. It is not all right for a woman to throw apples at you and think it’s all right. I don’t think that I don’t think is, you know, it’s cool that she feels that, you know what, I can do this and whatever I do to him, he has to deal with it. Oh really?
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Oh, really? Now. So a woman can point a knife at a man and it’s all right. I don’t think so. A woman can, you know, hurt a man physically and it’s all right. I don’t think so. Alright, so, so what I’m saying in a good relationship, you gotta deal those things. You, you, you, you, you have to understand that I can’t go off on you and you can’t go off on me.
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I think that makes sense to me. That makes sense to you. I think it does. All right. Why am I going to destroy you? Right? Why am I going to come after you when you’re not supposed to come after me now, ladies, some of y’all slick. Some of you like provoking your man. Alright. Some you like coming after your man. I’m sorry, my counselor, he’s a texting me with issues. All right. You know, some of you are not knowing how to do that.
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Alright. That’s going to cause a problem down the road. Yeah. That’s going to cause a major problem down the road, because now what you’re doing, you’re saying to your man that I can hurt you, but you can’t hurt me. Okay. That doesn’t make any sense at all. You know, that’s not good. Alright. So you have to make a decision to not do that. Okay? You gotta make a decision not to play that game, right?
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Because when you play that game, you are really putting something in a bad place. You are putting things in a bad order. Okay? You’re not understanding. Hear me in relationship. You’re putting bad seed into your man. Ladies. I’m jumbling you today. Yeah. They didn’t do the young lady on the hip hop bootcamp. So I’m going to bring some correction to that. Yes. Again, I am not denying that the man needed to get off the show because of the violence that he did with his girl.
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I have no problem with that. The problem I do, you know, look at this man, look at this man. I’ll say, I think Vedo. I think, I think it’s Vedo. Hang on. Let me look him up. This is a lot of people. This is live or I do. This is live, I believe. Huh? Yeah. Vato executive producer. Henry comes to my rescue. Yeah. Vato and his lady, listen, I’m not taking away.
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Vato needed to come off because of how he put his hands on. Okay. So the reason why they didn’t kick her off because she didn’t put his hands on him, but she was still violent. She threw apples at him. Well, you know, he a man and he should be able to take an Apple to the head.
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No,
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He should not be used as a target practice because you want to go to the Olympics for throwing apples.
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That’s funny to me,
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B at area code (203) 753-7377 or via email at dr. B is real@gmail.com. That’s D R B I S R E a l@gmail.com. Now back to your virtual relationship counselor, here’s more of dr. B. I’m getting no, I don’t think that is correct. I, I don’t think a woman should be able to be violent toward the man now.
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Yes, he put his hands on her, but it was something that she did to him. Again, we’re not excusing his practice. Okay. We’re not excusing what he did was wrong. We’re not excusing that at all. We’re not saying that what he did was justified. It wasn’t justified. I’m just saying that ju justice should roll both ways. Okay. Justice should roll both ways. Not just one way, but both ways.
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Okay. When you don’t do that, when you don’t show correct. Now hear me. Here’s what I believe. If so, why shit. If someone had a corrected her vitals, a girlfriend and somebody, I corrected her. I don’t think you would have yoked her up again. We’re not excusing what he did. We did was wrong. Okay. What he did was wrong. Okay. But if someone has said, wait a minute, you can’t do that. Now where we’re the executive producers. Now I know every executive producer here to be in me was on set.
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He would have said, no girl, you can’t do that. Timeout funny. The, let the, let the TV cameras roll. When she was throwing apples at him and brushed up the chair against his table. And they didn’t correct her. But as soon as he put his hands on again, yes, he put his hands on her. That was wrong. Not justifying that at all. That was wrong. That was wrong. But I said it was wrong.
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I said, again, that was wrong, but it was also wrong. What she did. Okay. And if we’re not careful, ladies, you will become the victim all the time. You no, no, no. Okay. Hear me loud and clear as good counselor. I tell couples all the time. You just can’t look at one spouse. Okay. You look at both of y’all. Mm Hmm. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Both of you must come before the jury.
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Both of you, not one. I said both of you. Okay. The problem is is that we don’t do that on a regular basis. Do it? No, it don’t focus on the man doing what? The man. No, no, no, no. Is not what demand does. That’s what you do. Okay. It is how you do with things is how is a mentality that you bring to the table? Okay. When you have a mentality that that’s not right, then you will find yourself doing a lot of things wrong. Why? Because you’re not doing things correctly.
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Right? You’re not putting things in order. Right. You’re you’re you’re you’re you’re you’re you’re you’re, you’re you’re you’re not moving things in the right direction. So when you don’t move things in the right direction, what do you expect? All right. Again, you know that there are things that happen. You know that once you put it in motion, you wouldn’t ask her for some problems. Okay. You know, a man does have some type of pride. All right. And now you’re gonna put your hands on a man or throw things at demand.
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Again, I, you ladies talking right now, right here should be able to take it. Ah, ah, ah, ah, thank you, Portia. Thanks for watching. I do appreciate that. No, no, no, no, no. Thank you, Anna. Thanks for watching as well. No, you cannot do those things and expect things to go. Well, you can’t, it’s not right. Nor is it fair? Okay. It’s not right. It’s fair. I gave you don’t leave your comments. You can leave your comments on Facebook live and we’ll answer your questions or also relay your comments.
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You cannot do that on a regular basis. That’s not fair is not good. Okay. You got to change your perspective. Okay? You got to change your insight ladies. You can’t do that. Okay? Just like, well watch it just like a man. Cannot provoke a woman. Can’t go. A woman cannot provoke either. I will say it again. Just like a man. Cannot provoke. Neither can a woman provoke to, okay. You can’t keep a voguing to one another and it’s spreading day.
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Hey, we’re in Walt Disney. We ain’t. No, won’t do any way in hell. I walked in there. You I’m sorry. Walt Disney. Okay. I’m sorry. Walt Disney. Okay. Okay. You went to hell. Why? Because you’re coming at one another. Okay. You’re you’re you’re saying things and you’re doing things that could literally, you know, have the Popo knocking at your door. Right. So you really got to be careful.
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Okay. You really have to do things on a different mentality. You really have to do something on a different migraine. Cause if you don’t do it, it’s going to destroy you. It’s going to break you down. Right. And, and again, now again, some of you are used to ladies again, I’m on you today. Okay. Again, we are, let me make a, a nutshell statement. I don’t believe in any violence between male and female. How’s that? Okay.
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Does that make sense to you? Okay. Make sense to me. I do not believe in male and female violence in relationship. Okay. I think that covers everything. Okay. Diet covers everything. You cannot be in a relationship and consistently hit one another. He does had to be here. Well, I ain’t going to, nah, you find them in bed with another woman. I haven’t gone to night. You might want to hurt him, but Vonda’s doesn’t work.
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I mean, that knew about it now. It was my, and he got his daughter, a brand new car and he got me a donkey. Ain’t no excuse to him. Nah, nah, nah, nah. Excuse to divorce that excuse to hit him. Alright. So again is really putting things in perspective. Okay. It is really you saying in essence that you will not let things get so out of whack or out of whack, that that you’re going to lose yourself.
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Okay. What good is it for you to lose yourself and everything? You have ladies hear me loud and clear. Alright. Okay. Now, now can we go deeper? I will. If a guy is constantly taking on your character, that’s a good sign. You needs to leave or he needs to leave. I’ll say that again. If a guy is causing you to come out of your category, I think it’s time to catch the next plane.
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How he said it. That makes sense to me. It makes sense to me. Why? Because you’re going to consistently stay in that presence. Okay. You can essentially stay in that place and that’s not good at all. Okay? That’s not healthy. That’s not good. And most importantly as not safe. Okay. Now again, can we examine why you feel so comfortable and agitating?
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Gee, can we go a little deep to find out why you are just at home and making him want to say and do things that hurt you? Good. Again, we do not advocate violence. When we don’t know, we do not have a Cate violence. We don’t, we don’t have a key balance. You know what I’m saying? You don’t want to keep balance, but again, you cannot continue to do that and expect people not to be hurt down the road. There is no way you can do that on a regular basis.
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Okay. There is no way that you can see that done in points of life. Okay? How can you really understand this man? You wit, when you constantly provoking him, dr. B has chosen to devote his life to saving the institution of marriage in his book, successful marriages for successful men. He gives them the knowledge to be relationship. Ready? Check it out. My ignorance in my first marriage was definitely Shawn and I learned the hard way.
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V. How can you consistently say you love somebody, but every time you get a chance, use, want to stab them mentally, sometimes physically. Okay. That’s not that not good. Not good. No, that’s not good. That’s not good. Because again, what do you bring into a relationship? Nothing positive. Okay. Well you bring a relationship. Nothing has good. If anything washes you bringing negativity or I will go even deeper for my spiritual.
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How do I have to pastor you bring in demons to your relationship. Yeah. So when you justify going off on your man physically, and you justify that mentality, I’m telling you right now, that is not good at all. That is not helpful. That is not positive. And you really open the door to a lot of problems down the road. You were really opening the door to something that real not work. You really opened it again. You only, again, you are really sad, but tagging their relationship.
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You really sabotaging what is going on in a relationship. You, you, you, you, you, you really sabotaging the problems that are there and I’m telling you right now that don’t work at all. Okay? Dada, that does not work at all. So here you are trying to have a better relationship trying to do things well. And what are you doing in the meantime you’re hurting, right? You’re hurting. You’re destroying you tearing down and you spend everyone to be in love really now.
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No, they’re not going to be in love. They’re not going to like you too much, right? Because you’re not bringing watches, good ingredients to relationship. I tell couples all the time and I believe this is my heart soul and mind. Every couple brings an ingredient to the relationship. Yeah. I would say that again, every couple brings an ingredient to the relationship and based on the ingredient is what they both eat. Oh, did I say yup.
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I said that whatever you bring to the table, you both eat. So you bring bitterness, animosity negativity. If you bring that to the table on a regular basis, why are you surprised that you have no teeth left? Why are you so surprised that you know, your taste buds are gone? You know, he tastes buzzer gone because you consistently bring things to the table that are wrong.
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Now again, I do not advocate violence. I do not advocate violence at all. I do not advocate, you know, any type of physical violence against somebody. So that’s why, again, on that marriage bootcamp, someone should’ve said a sister girl, or as my son would say, sweetie, we can’t do that. You cannot put your hands on a man and expect life to be fine. Okay. You cannot throw things at your man.
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No, you, you can’t do that again. It was wrong for him to Jack her up, but it was wrong for her to instigate. All right. Because again, it doesn’t have the relationship at all. I really hope you guys are seeing what I’m trying to say to you. I really hope you are understanding the mind frame. That has to be changed as like some of you just immediately go into battle wives. Alright. I’m on you today. Okay. You immediately become Xena.
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The warlord you, you mean become wonder woman. All right. And I’m saying to you, we got to go deep. That’s what good counseling is good. Where’s this pain coming from. Cause a lot of times the pain that you have didn’t come from your spouse knew, knew, Oh, you think, Oh, you thought the pain you have because of your spouse. No, ma’am a lot of pain that you have comes from your past.
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That’s never been resolved. So how can you expect things to get better? If you keep destroying, you got to do things differently and to do things differently. I have a different mind frame to have a different perspective. A lot of times, you know, you are so easy to work up, you know, to work things up. I mean, and listen, the Bible says I’m almost done here. The Bible says a soft answer. Turns away what? Let me hear you.
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Let me hear you. Let me hear you. It turns away wrath. Yeah. A soft answer. Turns away wrath. Do you believe that? I do. Why? Why? Because if I’m coming after you right. And saying all types of things against you, that’s not going to help that, that that’s not going to help you. That’s going to help nobody else. Right? Because I’m coming after you in such a manner that it will destroy you and everybody else.
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And so you got to come to this conclusion. You know what? I’m not going to do that. I refuse to play the game of, okay, you got me. I’m gonna get you again. Why stay in relationship like that? Why stay in relationship like that? Why, why, why stay there? Why stay there while you are festering and you thinking way to the I’m get a back I’m I’m I’m going to put some battery oil in his coffee.
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Really? Huh? Okay. Okay. That sounds like a long law and order movie right there. Okay. No, no, you can’t do that. No, you can’t. You can’t do that. You cannot consistently do that and expect things are going to be fine. You can’t
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What did I say? He can’t do it. No, no, no.
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Okay. I just bust somebody’s dreaming day.
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Oh, I’m so glad. Lo put you on my heart. God, show me how to get that man tomorrow.
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No, what I say? I said, no, you can’t do that. Okay. You got to say, you know what? This man is not worth my freedom. No, you don’t look good in a jumpsuit. That’s orange. You don’t look good at all. A jumpsuit jumpsuit. You know, you don’t look good. No, you don’t. No, you don’t look good at all doing that.
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Okay. So it changed your perspective, right? It is really changing how you look at life and doing things differently. If you don’t do things differently than you will consistently fall. So really? What are you bringing to the table? And you’d be surprised how many women, if they’re not careful, again, I’m being a woman this time because they didn’t do what they should have done on match book. I know I’m not on marriage bootcamp. No, I’m not jealous or envious. I’m just saying what I saw needed to be corrected and no way did they say anything to the girl that listen you two, the two apples to apples after person.
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And he had to take it. And then he yolk you up and you
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No, it bothered me when he yoked her up. She had, I don’t know why he did that. You don’t exactly know exactly why she’s yo, cue up
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Now again, I’m not, listen. I’m not advocating violence. I am not advocating violence at all.
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But you threw apples at the brother. Okay. You know how Harley Apple is now? Maybe
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You threw a tomato at him. Maybe that would have been fine. Okay.
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But you threw an Apple at the bro. You bro. I was hurt.
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She threw it real close. I told him about 20 miles away. She was right close to man. All right. I’m not advocating violence. I’m not advocating, but that was re ladies. I ain’t gonna let him. I’m a man. Okay, ladies, you got stupid. You can’t be revolting and brother again, I don’t, I don’t, I don’t, I don’t believe in if I don’t. I don’t, I don’t. Then I say, I said, I don’t believe in violence, but it goes both ways.
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That’s all I’m saying.
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Okay. You can’t keep doing that and expect
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No repercussions from that. You know what I’m saying? You can’t do that. I’m going on a I’m just trying to help somebody out there. Cause some of y’all women thing
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That’s all right. I’ll put itching powder in his underwear has really the STB and his underwear. No, you can’t do that.
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You can’t do that. Okay. I think I feel a little bit better because I saw that, that, that, that, that really bothered me. All right. God bless you. Hope you guys enjoyed the podcast today. I’ll be at Mohegan sun. I will be at Mohegan sun this Thursday, the 13th of August. For those on the podcast. You won’t hear this, but those who are Facebook live, I’d be, I mean he can sign August 13th, 10:00 PM.
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Yes. I make sure you drink your coffee and it’s a great time. It’s another open door. God has given me to help couples also spread some love and no I’m not involved. Go up there. Nope. Nope. Not vulgar. You gotta come and see for yourself. So go to my website, www dot <inaudible> dot com. And it doesn’t mean you call the comedy, a comedy with dr. B and that’s how you’re able to see me. Okay. And tickets are a $15, $10, $5 brother, man.
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This is a cheap date night. You know what I’m saying? Now? Unless you stay over now, you know, she, my age, you know, and I’m telling them about, you know, not talking about ya. Alright. Executive producer in Vimeo actually did that. You know, I can’t do that yet. Cause I ain’t married yet, bro. Y’all believe y’all believe me. After the 29th, I might be going to stain stop being so nosy. All right. So the 29th, that’s a two days from now, the tickets are still available tickets at $15, $10, I think even $5.
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So come on out and support me and be a part of it. All right. Well that’s it
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