Transcript Will and Jada Entanglement
Transcript Will and Jada Entanglement
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Good. This is dr. B. When we come every single week on our podcast to give you ladies information or our relationship with yourself, God and others. A lot of times people are trying to figure out who and what they are, and they cannot do it unless they find out who they are. And that’s why this podcast hopefully will, will be a blessing to you. We’ll encourage you. We’ll keep you going along as you go through the process. So I want you to just get ready and to go forward.
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All right. So can’t deny this. So will and Jada Pinkett Smith have been really going forward about their, her entanglement. And we’re just going to have a discussion about that. Now. Let’s see. Let me say this off the bat. Everybody had asked. Okay. Yeah, I guess. And what I don’t like about Facebook sometimes is that they, they attack people as you know, they don’t have their own issue.
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Everybody has issues. Everyone has things that they’re not proud of. Everyone has things that they go through in their lives that they wish had never happened before. And so it’s a process. Now I do understand they are celebrities. And one of the point of being celebrity, that people nosy, they know that, and they’re all in your business. So that’s a part of that. So that’s the first thing I want to say, because, you know, as a, as a pastor, I really believe in John chapter, John chapter eight, which says an essence, he, that is without sin cast the work for a stone.
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So we don’t want to cast any stones at will and Jada. Okay. And we’ll dive into their lifestyle. We’ll dive into what Jadah went into. But again, it’s getting perspective that before I’ve been diving into that, can I ask a question? How is your relationship doing okay? You know, people are funny that instead of them working on their relationship, they will go to everybody else’s relationship. And, and really when you do that, that’s really you’re forming a distraction.
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All right. You know, you know, this distractions are there, so you won’t work on your stuff. Okay. You are stuck. Okay. All I know you’re ready to. Oh, what that big goal say about data? What does the big owner say about, well, okay. We’re going to talk about them, but can we talk about you for a second? Yeah. That, that, that, that, that there are things in your relationship. Are you covering your bases? Okay. Are you covering your stuff? Okay. You know, one thing I can say that Jadah did speak about August is that she forgot about herself.
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Okay. Sometimes the relationship you have to understand, yes, you are in a union, but you got to deal with yourself, right? You got to deal with, you know, what is what’s coming against you and what’s discouraged you with, and what’s making you not feel strong and what’s making you not be willing to be yet. So those things need to be discovered about what are things within you that need to be worked on? What are the things we think new that has to be ironed out? Why? Because if you don’t, I end them out.
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A lot of times you’re looking for your spouse to do that. You’re looking for other people that do that. Well, the bottom line is this. This is what I believe is that as you work on you, that indirectly works on your spouse or, okay. Whereas as I work on myself, make myself a better person. Yeah. Okay. All right. Excellent. Thanks bill. All right.
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Yeah. We’re trying to save money without electricity go. We saw our electricity bill and it was quite high. And I told EAP, we didn’t have no AC, but they have what my builder told me right now you read a scheme. All right. So I had to be real with myself. All right. So, so how do I work with a will and Jada being real? Okay. We’ll sell. Okay. Because again, you can get so flustered and so into what you have, what you bring to the table that you forget about listening to, you have to deal with you.
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Okay? Because there are things that is very important. And we’ll talk about this, that there were things that he brought in into the work relationship, the fact that their relationship, that makes sense. I’ll say it again. There are things that he brought into the relationship that I fed the relationship, you know, as you guys know, getting married soon, and there are things that I’m constantly doing a mental kidney.
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Okay. What do you mean mental kidney? Doctor B. What does the kidney do? A kidney takes the, the impurities out of your system. It takes out the things that shouldn’t be there. And when you don’t do that on a regular basis, you may find yourself doing things that you should not be doing. Why? Because you’re not letting the, not letting the impurities go through you. So again, with will and Jada and any relationship you got to let go of the impurities.
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Okay. So let’s deal with the first thing. Now. I didn’t hear it EPL. No, you heard it, but I didn’t hear them actually say that over a relationship. Did you eat that later? Okay. So I didn’t hear that, but that’s what the room was. All right. So now I’m not going to rumors. I’m just telling you that every couple that I’ve counseled with over relationship can tell you what happened to him. And that’s why they will see me.
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Okay?
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Every open relationship that I have seen, 91 of them said, you know what? We will do that. Some more Nan. One of them said, we wish you had never done that. Why? Because in an open relationship, there are comparisons. Okay, cool. I’m going to behave myself when I go.
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Yeah.
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That to me. Well, she did that to me. And how come you didn’t do that? Now you moved five times. Last time I did it. You only moved three times. You don’t want that type of comparison or know why? Cause the third person they leave. Guess who’s there. You and your mate, you and your husband, you and your wife. So every Oprah relationship does not work. Now y’all may say to me all the way worked for us. I don’t think so in the long run. Okay. Now why is that important? Because again, okay.
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Follow my logic. Keep on of my logic. <inaudible> okay. Would we all agree that you and your mate as enough drama for lifetime? All right. Okay. Would you not agree? Okay. Ads, any man that hasn’t been in mama ask, any woman has a baby daddy. They will all agree having a third process in relationship. Eh, what? They didn’t have that, am I right?
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Somebody? Yes, I am. Right. I mean, every person who had the ex wife ex-husband and you involved because of the small kids, wished didn’t wish it didn’t happen. Right? Because you have another, you have another adult and I bring this thing down here. You have another adult, which means another whole thing, a drama of the personalities, except the lab, et cetera, et cetera. Right? Because you got all these issues coming in into your life.
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Do you really want them All by myself? Yes. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. They call me dr. B. I’m gonna have all by myself. Why would I want to invite somebody else in my intimate apparel once married? No, I’m good. Now some of you are used to drama. Okay. Well we going somewhere today. Aren’t we? Yeah. Some of you as a childhood, right?
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In your childhood. Okay. You had a lot of drama. Okay. You had a lot of things going on. You got a lot of things happening in your life, right? And a whole lot of drama, a whole lot of issues going on. Right. And now that you are an adult, because you had drama, as you have said to yourself, subconsciously, it’s all right to have drama. Now I’m telling you right now, the older you get the less drama you want MRI, somebody, maybe like someone slashing your tires.
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When you come out of the house, maybe someone bring in the window. Maybe like someone called you 5,000 times so much that your cell phone run out of battery life. Maybe you like that. Maybe you like someone coming on your job and threatened to kill you. Maybe you like comment. Maybe you like that. I’m telling you that. Okay. So, so what happened? So what happened was Jada and weld. Now this is something that people didn’t hear.
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But as a counselor, I heard loud and clear before August got involved. But what I heard on red table, a great table <inaudible> table. There were issues before guide and according to a will said they were done, done. Okay. It was over. Okay. So again, I don’t know, because it didn’t say it, but people, when you are done, don’t it make sense to get a professional, to help you?
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Does that make sense? Somebody to help in my car, break down, got Tyler, go to YouTube and find out how to fix it. DUI to yourself. Alright, I’ll do that. Okay. So why is it that when we have relationship issue, we don’t get the proper help. Right? We don’t get the proper instructions to help us go through this. <inaudible> how can you expect to fix something? You’d be up no one professional help. All right. We’re coming back to with section two,
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So again, it’s the, you know, get the professional help. Okay. So, so now August from what I hear is that was in a bad place. August apparently was friends with Jada son. His name escapes me right now, but they were friends. All right. So he brought his friend to Jayden. Okay. And because Jadah is definitely a mother and involved, she was helping out at the same time though.
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Are you getting my brother? I’m trying to say at the same time, at the same time Jayda and will we’re having issues. Okay. Now please hear me loud and clear. If you got issues already, it don’t make sense to get more issues that large to go to somebody. Or that is odd to me. I think one more time again, if you got issues already. Okay. Doesn’t it make sense to do those issue before you get more issues?
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And a lot of times couples don’t do that again. You saw, you said the drama, you so used to the pain, you so used to the issues going on in your life. You don’t see that what you’re doing is bringing more. What’s the word? What’s the word I’ll give to you confusion. So what happened is that because of what was going on with Jadah and will, they’ll bring in more confusion. Now I’m gonna turn a corner. Okay? I’m gonna come into the future. I may come at the computer, but I’m gonna turn the corner.
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I’m a dependent. Can I turn the corner? I will. So here is Jada confess and hostile. If I’m right or wrong, I think he will confess to his, all right. Now I’m old fashioned. The man’s a leader. The man takes things in a direction. I know Jadah had a relationship or friendship or whatever with Tupac before he passed away, they went to the same school together.
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So, so my issue is, you know, the Bible says confessional faults, right? Confess your what? Faults? One to one another. Does that make sense? All right. And a lot of times you’re trying to get something out of your spouse, but are you ready to give stuff out of yourself? So you hear me? Good marriage relationship is that, you know what? I can tell myself, if you can not tell on yourself, but you have a PhD and tell on your spouse, I’m gonna tell you right now, you are going to submarine the relationship.
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We’ll get you on a summary. In other words, you’re going to crash it. Why? Because you are so into what your spouse is doing. You don’t see what you’re doing now. Now, now I will say he’s right now. There was only one Messiah. In other words, only one person. That was what was the P word. Perfect. Okay. There’s only one person private Jesus Christ. So here I see the extreme between will and Jada.
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And I hear y’all say, well, well, it was about Jadah. Yeah. It was about Jadah for, see, this is all come down, Bradley. This is where I changed my psyche because I see it time and time and time and time and time and time again, the man you leave again. So whatever. Yes, there are there occasions where a woman will Emaculate the man will they’ll take the lead. Yes. Rather the majority of time, there’s the main take the lead and wherever that man leaves the woman.
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Well, what was the word? Wherever that man lead, she will follow. So in other words, if he’s crying, usually she’ll be kind. If he’s loving, he will be, she’ll be loving. In other words, what you interject or you’re going to expect this type of talk, their job. I know y’all did it cause y’all want me to gossip about willing Jenna? No, I’m not here to gossip, but I’m a pastor. Number one, plus I’m a counselor. You don’t pay me the gossip. You pay me to get out of the stuff that you were in.
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All right. So again, it’s understanding the shift, right? That men have to take because we, they follow us guys gain follow. Is it possible that every time you follow Judy’s fitness, she became the Titanic that she went down because of your wisdom, baby, just give me $5,000 and I gave it to you in two days. I’ll multiply it wrong.
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It’s okay. And so maybe the reason why she’s not following because you failed a lot, maybe. Okay. But again, Jayda. Yes. She confessed her wrong. What did we’ll do? Okay. Now again, they say their lifetime partners.
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Yeah.
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First of all, like they were partners that doesn’t wife, I’m old fashioned. I let her in life roles like that. I just, I just like it. You know, some things I will update on something. <inaudible> okay. But you know, we’ll have time partners. Yeah. Hasn’t like, I liked that better. So what I’m trying to say here is that Jadah was burned her soul. Now, now some people say, well, honestly, no tears with her and she wasn’t sorrowful. And then when I looked at well, he, he, he was crying cause I would kind of watery.
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Well, you know what? People heal differently. Get now. And I pray, this doesn’t happen. And I pray, this is not a prophecy. Okay. Again, hear me loud and clear. I pray. This does not happen. I’m afraid as those are prophecy. But when it’s been clinically shown that when a man and woman get into depression, okay. Usually it’s the woman that may get out. All right. Which means up usually it’s the man that goes down.
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Why did I say that? Statistically helped me out. How I say it statistically. So to that word, the AP just said, all right, women attempt suicide more than men. They attempt it. But men commit suicide more than women. Okay. That is a proven fact. And many people understand that suicide is directly affected to what? Okay. Depression.
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So depression and suicide go hand in hand. So what I’m trying to say to everyone in essence is that you may have gotten past it, but you may still have the remnants, the remnants of the pain, the pain. Okay. Okay. You may have passed it where the pain is still there. So again, I’m not willing.
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Jadas a counselor. Do I think they need one? I think every couple, a, a needs, a counselor or therapist, because again, we all do our pain differently. Okay. And that’s very important in a relationship. It does understand. We all deal with pain. What differently? Some people drink it. Some people smoke it. Some people have multiple affairs. That’s when people become passive aggressive.
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Here’s the key. Here’s the key that when there is pain, all right. Okay. We’re paying peaceful call. Okay. When there’s a pool in that relationship. Okay. <inaudible>, there’s a hole about what’s going on a is accepting. Okay. Can I accept that? My spouse is the pain. Okay. Can I expect, can I accept that my spouse is going through something I individual.
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Okay. Usually the pain starts individually. Okay. Usually pain is very, you know, it’s a person thing going on in negative PAI, N P is with a pool that it brings to you. So that pulls you away from your spouse. AEs is accepting that somebody has happened. I is, you know, this is an individual thing in his negative. All right. So again, if everyone heals differently, but here’s the kicker.
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There’s a kicker. There’s a kicker. The kicker is, will you heal? That’s a kegger. Will you heal together? Will you heal a part altogether? And most couples when they go through a traumatic experience, no, they’re doing the healing, the part. And then I heal them together.
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They’re not, I don’t want to go on, then I’m on the same page. Right. And so now what happens? The pain exacerbate.
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Okay.
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The pain gets worse. All right. So as the pain gets worse, what does that improve? Nothing. Nothing improves. Why? Because you were just saying, they’re not paying you standing in that cycle. You stay in what’s going on in your life. And guess what? Nothing approves. Why? Because you have now become separated. Okay. And, and if you be honest, most separates is not a physical first, most separates are first. What? Emotion.
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Okay.
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Alright. So with will and Jada, they had an emotional separation chart before. There was a pretty good separation. Now, somehow we stayed together. We don’t know what extended that staying together is whether they open marriage. I don’t know because they did not mention it. But again, it’s that emotional pain that steepness and usually the emotional pain soften your child. And again, a will did mention that he brought some stuff to the table.
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Okay. We all people that’s why know what waiting for me to lamb batch will and Jada, I’m sorry. Can’t do it. Why? Because every couple can we say this? Can we say, to be honest, we’ll be honest. Okay. You ready? Every couple has their, what? Challenges Every couple have their challenges. One challenge, maybe different than other times, but every couple has their challenges.
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Now the key is, is understanding those challenges and respecting yourself doing the challenge. Okay. That is a very important thing I just said. And I’ll say it again. You have to understand and respect the challenges that you both bring to the table because first you have your own personal challenges. Am I making sense? Somebody? Yeah. All right. And then of course, when you come together, you have your work collective collective people. It’s hard to write your talk at the same time.
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Thank you. Alright. Right. Alright. So build your personal challenges and your collective challenges. So with this <inaudible> things coming on, you, he goes, but he has some issues and it was rare to have some problem in your life. And based on that is how you recover from that. Yeah. How you deal with that is how it deals with you. And that’s something that we don’t understand. Okay. Deal with the problem.
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Now it could have been possible that will end Jadah ignored it. Okay. Can I say the real quick will and Jadah make a whole lot of money? Well, for awhile, I was, I think for why you like the number one movie star, but wow. That’s a whole boatload of money. He was at whole BOLO. So how can I say it is the problems we have it.
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Can I say it is kinda magnified when you make more money. So you’re, they split all this stuff, their job, but I’m trying to teach off. Okay. When you make more money, the issue go, what magnify. They become, what we can bigger, bigger problems, bigger issues. Wow. Cause you got more money. Your, your, your, your, your, your, your tax bracket has increased from the time I have on the Phoebe got about three minutes.
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All right. All right. So the tax bracket that will affect thing that will make you feel that. So it’s, it is magnified people. It, it becomes bigger. Alright. And the bigger becomes, the more things are magnified. So I think what happened with will and Jada and, and, you know, they both came from modest means all, they, none of them came from a millionaire family.
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Alright. So they came from modest means, so, so, so, so here you go, going from that to, wow. That’s a whole lot of money, whole lot of money, or a lot of problems, I will say, like JC said, but I got 900 problems and only like that. Okay. So you have that’s going on. That’s going to increase. So again with will and Jada, she taught, she said it had an entanglement.
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Okay. She had an affair at the bottom of mine. She, she had a doctor B wait a minute. They were not together. Eh, paper, they married. All right. And until the contract is broken or divorce, that’s key. Where the divorce, you still have an affair. People, all y’all don’t Oh, you ought to believe that. I did know that to be my wife and my coworker in like a homeless shelter and grabbing relationship.
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Cause she kicked me out, sir. Why? Cause you legally and they got quiet on that one. Legally. You still, what was the N word? I spell it for you. Right? So he’s still legally married. So hopefully we will cover the issues that you probably never thought about. That’s my job as a counselor to dig deeper than what you see. Oh, wait a minute. Can we go deeper?
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Why? Because when you go deeper, you first put the mirror on who? On yourself? And many times couples, they don’t do that to other guys. You want to put the mirror on yourself, but the Marilyn yourself, the most likely to do better. Okay. All right. That’s our time for the day. Bebo. I hope you have enjoyed us. Exhibit produce a minutes, a hundred BME. We’ll give you more information about the ministry and pray about being a sponsor. Pray about a cause we are your virtual marriage therapist, marriage, counselor.
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