Transcript When the Wife Sex Drive is Bigger

Transcript When the Wife Sex Drive is Bigger

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Welcome to real raw with dr. B, this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other with 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for real roar with dr. B,

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Oh my goodness. This is dr. B, where we come to you on a daily basis to help you become more connected with those who are around you, understanding that if you don’t connect with them, it’s hard for you to connect to others. And so our job is to go pass that and to help you along the way. All right. So today’s subject his wives who loves sex.

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Yes. Yeah. The wife wants to be blessed. Yeah. The wife. Yeah. And it’s really talking about men, their husbands who ain’t responding. Okay. Now I’m going to tell you right now that going to cause them problems. Okay. DI’s going to cause some issues because the wife wants to let’s get it home. And you’re saying, let’s go to sleep.

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I’ll tell you right now that is not going to work down the road because the wife libido is like, I want more. I want more. And the guy says, brother, you bet, you bet take them. Why? Because Kimmy, now society, what is down? How are we doing an EAP? We don’t go society. Societal. That’s how society has said that if a woman has a high libido or wife has a high libido, then that’s a bad thing.

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The devil is a liar. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Duh, duh, duh. That does not work with me. No, that does not work with me at all. Because, because the man really technically as a sex coach, technically a wife libido should be more than the husband. What’d you mean? We’re just talking about Willis. Okay. It’s very simple. A woman has over 8,000 nerve endings and her Qataris eight.

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I didn’t stutter. I said eight. Did I say eight? 8,000? A man has only 4,000. Okay. So because of that, he kind of makes sense that I don’t want to insure wanting more. And then man. And so what happened? So what’s happened or as Alco jail, what happened was the man’s ego gets attacked. Okay. The man says, you know what?

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Because of X, Y, and Z, my wife wants more sex than me. Her libido’s higher than me. I can’t give out. Now I’m going to tell you why that’s happening ladies. Because prior to you getting with him, he probably was a thoroughbred. He was, he was, he was, he was gone through women. He was gone through Waterbury. He was going, look at him going. He was going down new Britain. Oh my goodness. Look at him going.

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He’s going down. New Jersey, looking at him, going my God. He’s doing great. All right. Now he’s going to go down and make a shot. We left down to new England and now he’s a mural. He walked it slow.

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No, I walk in slow,

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But he didn’t know a lot of your stuff while you were chase. Why are you doing all this? Right. And now that he got you, he want to slow down. No brother, man. No, no. Wait a minute. So you’re telling me, I’m the, you tell me all the time you, the best thing ever happened to me. Well, the best thing that ever happened to you, I want your best. Alright. And I don’t want you doing Cialis.

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Like your minimums. Wait a minute. Oh, I don’t want you to know. What’s the other blue pill, Henry. I want you wait a minute, honey.

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Yes.

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And do that, sir. And expect her to feel like she’s important. You can’t do that. Do you? You, you, you gotta find that. Listen, my wife has knees. So, so why, if you hear me loud and clear, okay. You hear me loud and clear. Don’t let that man. Or that husband make you feel bad about your desire for sex.

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Okay?

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Okay. It is a God given desire. That’s what I said. It is a God given desire. Okay? God gave you that libido. Okay? And God gave you that your husband and how day he denies you, where you’ve been waiting for Olin few months, you’ve been waiting for Khalem time to have this experience. And here your husband says, you know what? One time a month is enough.

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The devil is a liar. And then the man, if he’s not careful, he will just make you feel that something wrong with you. Now wait a minute, wait a minute, sir. So let me get this right? When you want it to sex, like a crazy man, when you’re in your twenties and thirties, you thought everything was fine. Right? Okay. So now that your wife is in her fifties and she’s, she’s strong, she’s strong. She, she a strong woman. She, she, she, she she’s shown the kids.

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A golgi. She’s strong. However, too much fun. In this subject. She is strong that the kids are gone. The grandkids live 2000 miles. She she’ll have a retirement party. She ready. See you like, Oh, wait a minute, brother. You better see me soon and quite okay. I’m also a sex coach as well. You better see me soon and quick, soon and very soon, because that is not going to work.

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Your wife has needs. Okay. And, and wife, what? I’m trying to tell you an essence. You probably won’t have a good point and trying to convince him, you probably need to see a therapist. Hi, my name is dr. B. Alright, you, you need someone. That’s going to help them understand, listen, you have needs. And she has needs too. And then when you, and when you don’t meet her needs, then there’s a possibility that something’s not going to work, right?

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Why? Because the needs are not being what the not being met. And when needs are not being met, because what happens? People affairs. Now a lot of men don’t know this ladies. Okay, hold still. I got you. This one, gentlemen, please hear me loud and clear those listening and ladies, you can by mistake, wink, wink. Let them hear this broadcast. Wink, wink. Okay.

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You can say, Oh, you know what? A, I don’t know I was doing. I go, I gotta go out and, and take the kids somewhere. Okay. Nothing. Okay. That’d be lying. So don’t do that. But anyway, you can, you know, use your powers to get him, to watch his podcast. But sir, don’t deny for belongs to her. You belong to her. Okay? You belong there. Now. Now hear me loud and clear. Okay.

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Women usually have affairs after 50 or forties. I should say forties. I’m sorry. Okay. Most men have their flames between twenties and forties. So in other words, when you’re getting ready to stop, she’s getting ready to start. Yeah, buddy. Now I know, sir, your body’s not working properly or things in our word game because you’re getting older. I understand.

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I’m telling you, you know, one of the things I’ve done in my older years, I’m 55 years old. I’m working out. Why? Because God gave me one body and I’m trying to take care of it to the best of my, I bet. T all right. So I’m saying to you, sir, if you don’t want your wife to have an affair again, this is no excuse to having an affair. I say it again. It’s no excuse for you having an affair. There’s no excuse if you’re having an affair. But what I’m saying to you is that your wife is in her prime model.

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You ain’t yo. Yeah. She’s in her prime. She’s she? She, she, she, she, she, she wants to be loved. She, she, she wants to be ravished. Now. Now, ladies, let me, let me hit you EAP then ready for this. He let me hit him. What’s happened. What happened was, who may have that statement? What happened was between your twenties and forties? You told him no, I’m going deep on you, right?

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So in your twenties and 40, you told them, no, I don’t know why he told them. No, maybe he wasn’t doing things for you. You are so much a full time mom to die. Dah, dah, dah, dah. It’s all those things was happening in that time. Now that you are in your forties, but because 20, between 20 and forties, you kept saying, you kept saying, no, you kept saying no. At the time you kept having all these excuses. But now that you have discovered Sachs, it was the, all the time.

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It wasn’t like God said, all right, guess what? You won’t go to sleep. I’ll put something on you. I’m going to put a clit on you all the time. The problem, the problem is though 2040 ish, you beat your husband up. So you train him not to come to you. Ooh, let me come back with segment two or that. Okay. We’ll come back with segment. Two

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Beam. And we’re talking about wives who love and sex more. Yeah. Yeah. So, so again, in my ending statement, wives, let’s be honest. Some of you have beat your husband down. You told him no, no, no, no, no. So when he sees you, you’re naming Winnie, your name is no. So all these years you told him no. Right? All of a sudden now you discover sex, but all those years you told them. No, I told them no, you guys, so now is having a verse.

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Alright. Oh, we have a comment. All right. So, so, so really it’s understanding that, all right, you and your husband have to have a conversation. We’ve got to have a conversation. Okay? We have to have a conversation. And ladies, you may have to repent and say, I’m sorry, honey. I didn’t recognize how much we could be enjoyable. And the reason why I said no,

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Don Clark, I saw all those five kids that ran around his house during that time. And every time I saw those kids, my mind didn’t know that no more. We ain’t doing that no more. But now that the kids are grown now, wow. You know what? I can enjoy what God gave me. Okay. So, so, so hear me. Why’s who loves sex? I’m telling you right now. You got to tell that man, by knowing certain terms, I want what? Mine, you got it. You gotta let them know.

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Listen, I, listen. I work hard for that. Okay. You got to have a conversation. You got to talk to him. All right. We got to have a conversation. Yeah. Yeah. We gotta. And ladies, Oh, should I tell? Y’all have the conversation in lingerie. He gonna listen to you. He gonna be drooling.

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He gonna like, say that again. You want to have more sex? Wait, wait, wait, did you bump your head? Did you fall down today? All right. Because his brain is like she said, all right. So then there’s, there needs to be a real true conversation, right? Because again, wife, you have a libido. I’m gonna say one more time again. And you church, woman. Y’all got it worse. Oh yes you do. But you know, what’s happened over time. The church, the church has told you,

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Alright,

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That you didn’t need it that much. Right? The church told you that you didn’t need to have that much intimacy because that made you a loose woman. Alright. That made you a loose woman. Lord Jean. All right. Hello? Yes. I am a loose woman. I’m loose for my husband. Yeah. I am loose. Alright, so, so ladies hear me loud and clear. If anything, this podcast is going to set you free.

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You are feeling guilty. You are feeling like this is not normal. Come on now. This is not normal For me to have such a high sex job it. And then, and see what happens mentally is that you had a lot of hurdles earlier, Right? And then as you get older, as you understand your body, as the children get older, as your husband learns how to treat you, I’ll say one more time again. Cause y’all didn’t hear me.

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I’m gonna say it one more time again. Okay. You’re getting older. Okay? The kids are getting older. Your husband learned how to treat you. Akasha. Libido is going up because those are three major hurdles right there. Hurdle. Number one is understanding your body, okay? Understanding that you have over 8,000 nerve endings and clutters and, and a woman can orgasm 28 different ways. I know I’m a sex coach.

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You can order guys with 28 different ways. So you get an oldest. You understand your body. The children are not becoming of a big responsibility as a user. I mean, back in the day, you are the mom van. You were the soccer mom. You were the baseball mom. You was a football mom. You were the ballerina. Mom. You were everybody’s mom and mom and mom. And so now the kids are getting older now. Oh my God, I have a body. I have a name. Okay. So that, and then most importantly, number three, which is very important.

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I’m trying to help you understand why your libido has gone up. As you got older, I’m trying to give you the clinical way. Why you’re, why you are wanting to enjoy sex more with your husband. Okay? Lastly, is that he’s treating you better. He’s finally learned, or God forbid you accepted, but he’s finally learned how to treat you. He’s finally learned to bring home flowers. He’s he’s fighting, learning how to romance. All right. He’s finally learned that drive by. Ain’t the only way yet, but I know you’re listings. So I gotta tell you that real quick. Okay. Drive by sex.

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Not the only way. Okay? Your wife wants to romance. Your wife wants to massage. Okay? Your wife needs that type of thing with you. Okay? So wives, it makes sense while your libido is going up.

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Don’t deny it.

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I say it again. I will. You don’t have the nice those shoes, dude. I’m sorry. When you want those shoes, you wanna do everything you can to get those shoes. I know I’m telling the truth right now and Hey dude, you got shot. All those things. No, no, no, no. You have to say just like you don’t deny shoes.

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Don’t deny your sex drive. Does that make sense? Don’t deny it. Duh. Don’t keep saying no to it. That belongs to you. Okay. That belongs to you. That belongs to you. Okay. What’d you have right there belongs to you. Don’t deny what is yours? Okay. Don’t deny that. What you have. God gave it to you. So why are you denying it?

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Okay. Why are you telling yourself? Well, it’s not that important. Yes. It is important. It’s right there in it. All right. And here you are trying to fight something that you should never deny. Okay. You’re fighting something that should never be there. Okay. So it’s understanding that you have to go to another place in your mind. You gotta go to the place with your spring. I go, no, no place. Why? Because where you are is not good. Okay. Where you are, is not healthy. Okay. So really it’s understanding you’re not going to stay in that place.

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Okay. You cannot keep saying, well, you know what? Let me deny. Okay. How many years have you denied yourself? Okay. How many years have you kept yourself in that bad place? Okay. How many years and why? She says, well, I says, When you deny your sex drive, you become angrier. Am I talking to somebody out there? Okay. You become angrier. Your husband’s not touching you. You’re not coming out for you. Your husbands are making, you feel wanted. Your husband’s not saying he loves you.

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He doesn’t like kissing you. Okay. That will make you feel angry. Why? Because you are denying something that belongs to you. You are denying something that belongs to you. You are saying no to something that you should not be saying no to. All right. So I’m really trying to get you to see something from a different perspective. The new perspective is not to stay in that bad place. Okay. The respective is not to say or accept that bad behavior. Okay.

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That is your enjoy. Your husband. Do not deny what belongs to you. Okay? Do not deny the issues that you see within your life because that’s only going to keep you in the bad place. Okay. That’s going to keep you in a place that you should not be in. Okay. And you need to see things from a very different perspective. Okay? By having a different perspective, you see things differently. Okay. But you cannot stay in that bad place and expect yourself to be good.

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Okay? You can’t accept yourself to be in that bad place and expect yourself to be in a rightful place. Okay. We’ll come back with segment. Number three,

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Hebrews 13 says the marital bed is undefiled in his book. Married couples, thou shalt have great sex. Doctor B talks about married Christian couples, allowing themselves to enjoy each other. Intimately.

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There is a issue within marriages, whether Christian or non-Christian of couples who have declined in their intimacy and this book called life comes right at you. That, for example, if you had crazy sex, when you were not married, why did you stop having sex after you got married? And I know that a lot of reasons that comes with it, a spiritual and central marriage can cohabitate. Yes. You can be a Christian and love sex and be married at the same time.

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You can do it. I know it’s hard to believe

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With a real role with dr. B. And we’re talking about wives who love sex more in my ending statement. Why let’s be honest. Some of you have beat your husband down. You told them no, no, no, no, no. You’re not connecting to your loved one. You’re not connecting. Why? Because you’re in an angry mode. Okay. You’re in a negative mode. Okay. And as long as you stay in that negative mode, you’re not going to totally fulfill what is really yours. Okay? You’re not going to fulfill all the things that is there. Why? Because you’re angry. Why?

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Because your husband’s not accepting your sexual advances now, not now him and ladies, it’s really not being upset with him because also as a part of your trigger to right in the past, you probably try to be sexual with him. And he had a thousand excuses of why he was not sexual. All right. He had a thousand excuses of why he couldn’t be with you. And after awhile, that played that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that really played after awhile.

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And, and the bottom line, you of tied it here. And I story be honest. You, you, you, you are tired of hearing that constant story of why he’s not being with you sexually. Okay. You’re tired of being that voice, right. You’re tying to be in that place. Okay. And after awhile, you know, you’re going to be, become something that you don’t want to become. Why? Because he’s not watching this. Okay. Brothers, I’m trying to help you. All right, man, over you, you’re listening. You’re not helping her release.

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All right. You’re not helping her to let things go. Okay. You’re not helping her to take things to a better level. Okay. And you went to why she’s mad at you. You wonder why she’s not in a good place. Okay? She’s not in a good place because you have not helped her get to a good place. Does that make sense? You make sense to me. Okay. You’re not helping her get to that good place because of your attitude toward her. How you saying, Oh, it’s not that big of a deal. I’m sorry, sir.

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It was a big deal for you. It’s a big deal for her. Does that make sense? Somebody, I make sense to me. It is a big deal because she has needs. All right. So, so, so again, wife and also, I know you’re tired of me saying this all the time, but again, you guys may need some therapy. Okay? You may need some therapy. You both need therapy. Okay? It’s not just you Madam. It’s both of you.

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You both need therapy to get out of that funk. Well, you both need therapy to get out of that bad place because you guys have accepted being in that particular predicament. You’ve accepted that you accept that this is fine. You accept that this is normal. No, this is not normal. This is not the right place to be. This is not the right mind frame to be in. Okay. You got to say, you know what we deserve was the B word better? Yeah. You deserve better. Okay. You deserve a better mind frame. You do have a better spirit.

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You deserve better, not worse, but better. So how are you gonna deserve better by doing things differently? Okay. By, by, by, by not denying that. Yes, I do have a strong sex drive. Yes. I do desire sex. That doesn’t make you a bad person. Okay. It is you moving to that. How can I say, move into that mind frame that says, you know, it’s all right. That if I shop at a central toy store, it’s all right.

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It’s all right. Just don’t hide the toys when your husband, that’s the only thing I’m going to say about that day. Okay. We don’t do, we don’t do that now because that’s a form of a secret. And do you like secrets? Not anything you do. So it’s really understanding that perspective in life. And, and again, the more you understand that the better will feel, because again, you don’t feel rejected.

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Right? How many years you’ve been with that, man? And you felt rejected. Okay. How many years you’ve been in that place and you felt rejected. Alright. You felt alone. Okay. You felt like you’re battling by yourself. Okay. You felt in that bad place. Okay. And I’m, and I’m encouraging you right now. That that is not your lot in life. Okay. That is not where you are supposed to be the rest of your remaining life. Okay. You should be enjoying what God gave you. Not, not enjoying it.

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Okay. Does it make sense to me? Right. You know, you and your fifties going to sixties and you know, you pop by this, you’ve always been in sales. You always enjoy six jobs. All of a sudden he has stopped. Well, brothers, I’m telling you by any means necessary, you know, by any means necessary. You gotta find a way to please your wife. Okay. Hopefully I helped somebody today. And our podcast EAP is going to give you the final words.

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And until next time, peace,

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Be the glory.