Transcript of Accountability
Transcript of Accountability
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Welcome to Real. Raw with Dr B this nationally published author and pastor has made it, his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other. With 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for Real Raw With Dr B
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Oh my goodness. How are you doing people? It’s been a while. This is Real Raw With Dr B Podcast we’ve been away for awhile. Got some merit. So that’s one reason why I wasn’t on a Podcast hope you guys missed us. We dealt with miss you guys to hide, to take care of some bitten it, alright. To get some business. My loving wife will be on later on private in October because, and you don’t know how my mind works.
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All right. But we are walking funny, but I had to do that. So some of you didn’t know, but I’m also a comedian, a clean comedic. And of course I met the Mohegan sun sign, the 24th of September, the 24th of September in Mohegan sun in Connecticut. And you can later on scroll down on my Facebook or go to my website.
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Dr T see brantley.com click onto the page of comedy with doctor B. Could you take it’s great date night for you and your lovely wife also is educational because I use comedy to teach how to be in a better relationship. So we’ll talk about that later on. And executive producer, Henry will remind me when we get off. Alright, so let’s go to the point. So the day is Accountability gag.
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Now we probably talked about this before, but it needs to be talked about again. Okay. That, that, that this is important. Accountability is on five Facebook and Periscope, all go stuff. All right. I’m not being nosy. I’m talking to executive producer, Henry. All right. So Accountability is important people, especially the men. Alright. And then there was a point that, you know, you want your wife to be accountable to you as you should.
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But thing about it, a gold bowl, both. What are all the ways, right? If, if you want to know where she’s at, doesn’t make sense for you to be an example of make sense to your ass. She know have a nurse in your mind, but I can’t say it on, on, on Facebook. I have a nursery rhyme, but wherever, wherever your goal is, your wife must know how about a little nursery rhyme there.
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Why? Because when you are accountable, keeps you out of trouble, plus Accountability keeps you with to see where people
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Yeah,
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She connected. That’s what kills so many couples. They don’t have a good connection. So, so some break it down like this. Some of you are in the house all day long. You can’t stand it. Lord. That’s his favorite toy hours. It was good when I saw him on a break, but for most people, right? So you get a bit of money go to work. So there’s the eight hour or sober.
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Alright,
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So you haven’t talked to each other, you haven’t texted each other. You have an email, no smoke stream knowing nothing. And then when you come back together, you got to get read
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Connected.
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So instead of getting reconnected, it makes sure it makes sense to have a constant what Accountability right. Because when I’m constantly as keyword constant, Alright. When I’m constantly accountable to you and you are accountable to me, then it helps our relationship grow. But so many times couples don’t get have that because there’s no Accountability, I don’t know where you at.
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You don’t know where I’m at and then we’ll come together. When we see each other again. No, you lost the connection. We lost something that was needed to help the relationship.
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Yeah.
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Okay. Listen, when you’re in love, I’m in love something about that. To me. You will love, you just got married. Oh no, no, no. See that’s why the reason why accountable is important, it helps you with revisions.
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Okay?
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Okay. In other words, my iPhone though, that don’t have our phone book, we’re praying for you in the name of the log. I’m kidding. I have iPhone, my iPhone and Android. They get constant revisions, right? You’re constantly updating the phone. Why you want the delay?
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Come on technology. Ah,
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Ladies. And so by having the latest technology, even though my phone is over 10 years old, I’m taking collections for a brand new iPhone, right? From 10 or I didn’t collection. All right. They may be, my iPhone may be, but why says inside is brand new? Y’all didn’t catch that now. I lost somebody don’t like that, but those have iPhone 10. I ain’t jealous as to why and jealous as to why I’m not jealous because my iPhone five share my iPhone.
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Vine mindful of five has the same frame of firmware as your iPhone. 10. Ooh, let that summer let, let off, let that, Oh, let it, let that marinate, let that marinate. Y’all don’t let that dude. Y’all like that. That my old iPhone five, we have old Bible five as the same from where the silverware and life old Jen, to look at them. Look at them. Look at him, look at him and look up here.
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So why? Because I want the latest technology, man. Hear me loud and clear. Boy. I’m enjoying my wife. Lord, dude. I’m with John malware. Listen to him. B eight. Now I’ve got a wife. So I might get beat up. If I say something wrong as though they were just leaving for the comedy show, but I’m telling right now I’m selling it to my girl. I put it like that. I will know it. It is happening Right?
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Saying, wow, I’m on the latest. Now. Listen, you Christian folks just going to take communion. Just don’t take communion. All right. All right. I want the latest, right? Why? Because when you are accountable with your wife, your cattle with your husband, you have the lady’s information. Now, why is that important? Because when you don’t, when you don’t have the latest information, so may go down while away. Okay?
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So let’s say something goes on. He goes to his business meeting. You go to your business meeting, right? So something happened. You got a discouraging word or you got a bill, the baby mama called you, whatever the mistress calls you. That was a joke. You better not do that. Am I? B your last phone call? I made so up. So bad. So, so you have one of those bad days, right? And so you walked in the house for the attitude. You’re wife, your husband, because they are connected to you.
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Are you sitting with all your significant other, they so connected to you? They don’t know the latest. Come on now. Come on now. So now they just seeing your body come on.
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Awesome.
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Right? And your body language is saying something and I’m like, something is not going wrong. Something is not all the ingredients is not in the Koolaid. You’re not like red Koolaid. I know it’s cherry, but come on now. Alright. So the read your body language. So I’m beading. I am trying to read your body language. And then of course, if I get it wrong, right? If I get it wrong, A whole nother discussion or the whole nother discussion or the most important thing, a couple of each other, they lie to each other.
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What’s wrong. No, you lie. Something is wrong, but you don’t want to be honest. Right? You don’t want to share my, you don’t want to share what’s going on. So that accountability is not just where you at, but baby was on your mind. Now, gentlemen, gentlemen of the jury, gentlemen of the jury, your wife always wants to know what you’re thinking. I guarantee if you don’t know what they’re thinking, that’s a good possibility.
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She ain’t thinking about how about you. You always want to want to think about you don’t want yet. How you doing mrs. Brantley you always want to girl thinking about joining, went to God thinking about you. I’m sorry. Those on Facebook. If you have any comments or questions, you can definitely leave them. I’m sorry. You attack them. And a executive producer will tell me about it and we’ll answer it to you right there. So the bottom line is, is that the Accountability I’m one of your mind. Okay? I want to know what’s going on in your head. I want to know what’s going on in your spirit.
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Why? Because I’m accountable to you. Okay? I don’t want to play a charade. Right. You know, should raise all, you know what? They start drawing things. And B both to guess The, what the answer, you know, how many fights have happened because couples have indirectly place raids, right? Why they didn’t want to share what was going on or I’m going deep on your own.
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They didn’t want to share what was going on. And so they are mute,
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Right? They are mute,
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Right? They’re not saying nothing. And so here you are this significant other, trying to figure out what the drunk s**t, you know, what was on your mind. All right. So the price of mule what’s wrong. Nothing or the professional neuters, those and none at all. And don’t say nothing at all. That’s not. Accountability why? Because when you became one and I put that in big letters, when you became one, that means, I know you, you know me now, the reason why many couples don’t understand this philosophy one because their childhood,
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Right.
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They never saw Accountability right. They never saw oneness. Right? Your soul argument, Sharla nastiness. All right. So a lot of out of pocket, that’s an attorney on folks told me, you know, so a lot of out of pocket things, mom and dad will do one another. But how did that let your ship? It did. So that indirectly taught you. Come on now taught you. There was no need for Accountability. Cause you never saw it. Now again, you have to be accountable and can we go deeper?
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Oh yeah, I’m ready for this. You gotta be accountable to God you gotta be counted out to your spouse, but can I say something more? Most importantly, one more time. You gotta be accountable to God. No doubt about it. You gotta be, but to your spouse or significant other, none about it, about it, but you know what else? You got to be accountable. You. Yeah. You got to be accountable to you. And in other words, this is what bothered me, right? This is my, this is my kryptonite.
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Right? Alright. These are the things that bother me. These are things that if I’m not careful, I will expose to my wife or I exposed to my husband and a cause they’ll hit that trigger. And all of a sudden I’m like, why should I’m mad with them? I’m mad with them. Why? Because I wasn’t accountable to myself. So you know what? This is a bad area of my life. Real Raw With Dr B is brought to you by the total relationship trainer, a ministry of restoration Springs, interdenominational church, Hosea four, six says our people die for a lack of knowledge to that end, dr.
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B has written 24 nationally published books on relationships, intimacy and theology. You can check out his library at Dr. T see brantley.com backslash bookstore. If you, or a loved one or in a difficult season in your life, marriage or personal situation, you can reach out to doctor b@areacodetwozerothreesevenfivethreeseventhreesevensevenorviaemailatdrbisrealatgmail.com.
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That’s Dr B R E a l@gmail.com. Now back to your virtual relationship counselor, here’s more of doctor B. Come on, give me and go deep. Some of y’all saw some tragic stuff. I mean, tragic as kids. I mean, some of you will raise by wolves. Literally. That’s not a joke. I mean, some of you were raised by despicable people.
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So, so your spirit was a sponge. Hear me and Gary, your brain was a sponge. And so what you saw that you was normal, whether it be normal, it was abnormal. Right? But because you saw it so much, your brain says acceptable. Oh, I’m teaching y’all I’m teaching y’all. So your brain said acceptable. So the Accountability two yourself says, all right, I have to know what are my own personal triggers.
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Cause if I don’t know my own triggers, then when it triggers me, sending your life, when it triggers me, then I know I have to do,
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I have to have a potion
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To go. What
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Against it?
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In other words, I gotta have some type of antidote. That’s where I’m looking for antidote. Yes. It’s Antigo that I need for myself. All of us had it. All of us have this thing in us that we don’t keep it under control. Like dr. Juggle, miss high. You remember that story? Come on, come on. You want me to say that long? Okay. Dr. Jeremy, dr. Jekyll, mr.
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Hyde, where there was one side. That was good. Let’s say that was bad. Matter of fact, Romans chapter seven talks about how I would do good, but what evil is what present in me. Yeah. So what I’m trying to say here is that the Accountability is to yourself. All right. So, so, so your father was jealous. Okay. So every time you see your wife talking to another man, or, or she’s not paying enough attention and all of a sudden, now this bird come on you, ah, I don’t cut you off.
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Alright. So you gotta know that’s something within me,
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Guys. I must keep under what objections. Yes.
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Talks about that. Right? I keep my body under subjection. And as your body, my brother, my sister. It’s your mind. Okay. I got to keep this mind under subjection. I got to say, no, I can’t go that way because I’m accountable. Okay. How can I be accountable to my wife? You know? But in accountable two Dr these are the things that bother me. And these are the things that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that lesson me. These are the things that draw me down.
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See, these are the things that in church are not talked about. Okay? Miracles, prophecies, brand, new house, brand new home. We talk about that all day long, all about working on yourself. How about, you know what, tell me yourself. You know what? You need to shut your mouth in and be quiet that little bit. Alright, so, so Accountability is important. Now let me take a deep breath. I don’t know why for the life of me, people are mad.
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I having passwords. We talked about this earlier on their phones and don’t know Egypt don’t know each other. Yes. So your comment that don’t make no Devlin says to me, how is it that you show each Others so glad not to. So my tongue, your site, each other’s genitalia.
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Are you, are you telling me you can’t show each other? The password? You know? You know your girl behind that door, number one and you can’t wait to see her. Yeah. Oh man. God are job to hate myself to come up. My honeymoon. Yes, I did a black judge. She behind door number one. Right? Well, all of a sudden she wasn’t your fault. Oh no. Wait a minute. Y’all been proud of me.
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Did you show her your genitalia? Y’all don’t know me. Wait didn’t you show her how your genitalia. So now you can’t show the password. Wait a minute, wait, stop the press. It’s about the breath. So you know what? That’s my phone. Well, I know that’s your phone, but that’s also the Jen and tell you, you want to share with her. So if you want so, so if you can show your genitalia, sir, ma’am, if you could show your genitalia, then you can show the past with your phone.
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Well, you know what I have? So I got to have some privacy, right? I got to have some privacy, listen, and understand about privacy and that, but again, if you’re not careful, privacy is very close. Two affairs, all y’all got, is it an affair? Private. Oh, y’all got quiet. Oh, yo. Oh, you’re not using to offer now. Huh?
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Privacy is closer than the van. Cause it’s private. I don’t want, I don’t, I don’t want her to find out. Well, listen, you keep putting passwords. How are, you know, my children know how to get through my past leg. And so what lesson that means make a more difficult password. Listen, one, one, one, one, one is good.
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That’s not a good password. One, one, one, one, one. Oh, cause your kid’s going to get into that. That’s an easy password. So what I’m trying to say, it’s been accountable people. <inaudible> all I’m trying to say is that you revealing to each other. Now, the reason why some of y’all don’t really each other because they are secrets.
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Come on now, I’m helping y’all there are secrets. You haven’t dealt with their abuses. You haven’t dealt with, right. They are disappointments. You haven’t dealt with. And so, because you have not dealt with the disappointments, right? Because you have not dealt with the things within your life. It’s probably to be accountable. Why? Because you haven’t really started to what reconcile you ever started to reconcile the pain you haven’t reconciled was really going on inside of you.
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And so, because you haven’t reconciled it. That’s why you’re not being accountable. That’s why you don’t want to be accountable because now I have to, I’ve run away to begin reveal. Now, man, this is for you. You may have a wife every time you touch her sexually, she clams up or she’s not easy to initiate sex. Usually that’s a sign of some type of abuse.
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Alright. And because the abuse it’s, it’s something within that. She has not, again, reconciled. So whatever is not reconciled, you’re not going to want to reveal. So your not going to be accountable. Wow. Y’all see that. Why’s hear me loud and clear. Oh, you don’t want to be accountable. I guarantee you, your husband or your significant other is probably hiding a secret.
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I’m not saying a fare per se. I’m talking about something that it really disturbing to him. So he’s learned not being accountable is a learned behavior. Okay. Not being accountable is a learned behavior, right? Because usually the learned behavior is very connected to shame. All right. So, so when someone grows up with a shame or go up, you know, Lauren’s behavior now because they have this shame, of course they don’t want to reveal the, I really already, they don’t want to reveal those up because they are afraid that if they reveal themselves, you will shame them.
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Okay. Can we not be honest? How much shaming is going on in our country? Let somebody find some negative about you. Let someone, you know, your thinking about black Panther and prior to his passing blessing on, on the brother, people call him crack a crack black Panther. You know how unloving that was.
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And the brother was battling stage three, colon cancer. And here are people on internet, Facebook calling him crack a black Panther. He see how people are. So what’s the word I’m looking for. So in just not in loving, just so non loving. And so because of that, because of that spirit was Shiming and finding what fall means and I share.
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And because they don’t share, they don’t become accountable to their spouse. You said simple. I think I said on Sunday that God help us and give us a minute street or dropping stones versus throwing stones. I think I said that on Sunday, you know, Lord give us that ministry that we dropped shoulders, just throwing stones. We were gonna throw them really like, alright, so hope you guys were blessed by that, that, you know, Accountability is very, very, very, very important.
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And your relationship, if you really want to grow, right. You really want to do something in your relationship is that Accountability listen, no secrets, right? No secrets. All right. You know, again, blessing or on Chadwick and you know how he did black Panther, a couple of the Avengers, movies it with this sickness.
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You understand that for four years? Yeah. He still did it. I’m sure he was accountable to his wife either the last two Avenger movies. He did black Panther and he did a 21 graduates. Yeah, I hear that. He did. And not only did he do the last two Avenger movies, Hey Danny, is your husband not only did he do the last two Avenger movies, he also did black Panther and he also did Jackie Robinson story.
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And he also did 21 bridges. So that meant, so that meant that that may explain why he did so many movies in such a small period of time because he knew his time was up. Okay. Now I know you probably was accountable to his wife and accountable to those close knit, but again, you see how the world treated him. We live in such a non loving society. No grace, right?
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No forgiveness. Just chop your head off and feed it to the ants. That’s that’s society we live in today. So I’m just trying to encourage you not to go there. Okay. I’m trying to encourage you to, to move in a better mind frame, right? To, to move in a better place that you’re not allowing the negativity to overwhelm you. Okay? You’re not allowing the negativity to do, to, to make you feel. I can’t be accountable.
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Listen, if you can’t be accountable to yourself until your mate, you’re going to lose out. There’s no doubt when you’re not accountable to yourself onto your main, your going to lose that. Why? Because these secrets and not being accountable is gone. As soon as I equate to stress, that’s what I said. It’s going to grade describe a stress.
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Why? Because I’m not releasing. You’re not releasing so many women. And you know, we’re not having orgasms with your husbands. I guarantee you, those are Accountability cause your stress of you’re not shaming, right? You don’t want to be shamed. So I’ll hold things or hold things, hold things in. And there’s no release where people, if there’s no release, there’s a build up of what stress did that. That’s why this country is so jacked up off <inaudible>.
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We said we cloud ourselves with what things? Oh, look at my car. Look at my house. Look at my fur coat for a golden summertime. We will do no good at all. I mean, you broke it, all this stuff you got, right? But it’s only what masking the what? The pain. I cannot tell you how many Christians I see who are bragging about their gifts. Oh, I can speak into law. I can preach all I can say.
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And you’re miserable. The cat scared of you, scared of you. Even a goldfish gave to you. Every time you come in the goldfish, turn it. The only thing see is his tail. Why? Because you’re masking. And when you’re masking, you really not showing who you really are. All right. My time is up. Once again, I’ll be at performing EDB.
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I’ll be at the Mohegan sun. Yes. Mooky and sun on September 24th. You can see me. They’re alive gonna now I’m gonna tell ya the comedians before me, after me, I can’t be accountable to them. I’m a clean, I’m a clean comedian. Worry about your health. I I’ll talking about me. So get your tickets. Great date night also, as I’ll be about you and stayed over at the hotel afterwards, you know, they got bitten and taken care of.
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So be a part of us are tickets. You can go, go to my website. Dr T see brantley.com or the tickets from there at the Dr B comedy with doctor B. I got bless you until next time.
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