Guilty of an Affair?

There is often a sense of guilt when a spouse has an affair. At times the spouse who experiences the guilt removes him or herself from the relationship and begins what is considered and looks like a pity party, which pushes the relationship in a direction opposite of all good, causing anger and more frustration. This train wreck of selfishness must be broken. A marriage cannot move forward in progress with the other when such an atmosphere of shame or disappointment are constantly created and exists. This guilty selfishness becomes the topic of aimless conversation when there is no getting past the feelings of such guilt.

A spouse wants to be and feel the essence of Love and the characteristics of the same, even in instances where hurt and pain occur. Many times the spouse who has erred runs from the spouse of whom he or she hurt. The spouse may see his or her wrong but do not see the pain and hurt of the spouse who too experiences what the other has done to place upset within their union. This bleeds more self-points of selfish activity.

In order to heal, each spouse must pour themselves into each other. The thoughts and movements should be about the spouse who is hurt as well as the one who has offended, or we risk selfishness running through the relationship. That selfishness makes all involved cold and more distant from the other.