Transcript on Sexual Spicy Sex Part2
Transcript on Sexual Spicy Sex Part2
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Welcome to real raw with dr. B, this nationally published author and pastor has made it his life’s work to helping people strengthen their relationship with God themselves and each other with 25 years as a licensed counselor, coupled with his own life experiences with the ups and downs of married and single life. It’s like having a counseling session right in your own home. So without any further ado, it’s time for real roar with dr. B.
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Oh my goodness. This is doctor B, where we come to you with this very informative, very real podcast with the register with yourself, God and others. We hear a website is dr. TC brentley.com. Email this dog to be his real@gmail.com. Well, as promised you thought I’d forgotten that yet. I didn’t forget that promise. We will have a special segment about one of my favorite issues.
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Yes, it is. I’m getting married too soon. So this is going to be an even more, very, very issue. Yeah. This is part two people. Part two of central saves stimulated, satisfied, say divide, sex podcast. Yeah, there you go. We won’t keep it nice because you know, there’s some children listening, but the people die for a lack of what knowledge. So, so intimacy right. Is something that every couple must do.
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Yeah. I didn’t say it was an option. Oh, I get happy. When I talk about a subject, it is not an option. It is not a, it’s not a maybe. Okay. Okay. It is a, it is a must. Okay. You cannot be in a marriage and you ain’t knocking boots. I kept it. Nice. Yes, I did. You cannot be in a relationship and you have gone many years and months and weeks of not being together.
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You can’t do that. Now. Let me go to skip chip. Cause y’all don’t believe me. I can’t believe he talked about that. What can’t you believe it? Aren’t you married lady? Aren’t you married, sir? I believe it didn’t fall off. When you got saved in it,
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Did it fall off? It didn’t fall off.
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So if you are married, committed relationship, how come you are not being intimate more? I know why, but you don’t want to be honest. So let’s go to the text. The text says here, first Corinthians chapter seven, verse five, first Corinthians seven and verse five. It says defraud ye not one another, except it be with consent for a time that you may give yourself to fasting in prayer and come together. That’s something that Satan tempt you, not for your inconsistencies.
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Do you understand that scripture? Well, let me, let me, let me, let me, let me break it down for you. Let me break it down for you when you are not connecting or not being intimate with your spouse. Satan comes and okay. There is no other scripture like that in the Bible. That gives you a formula for Satan to come in. Okay? We know that he can come in through pain. He can come in through doubt. He can, he can come through this, but this is a guaranteed, guaranteed.
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Again. If you have any comments, please leave your comments and executive producer, ms. Henry BME will give me the comments and we will go forward those on Facebook live. So hear me. If you are not connecting as a married couple male, female, you are opening the door for the enemy to attack you. And then some of you have been so deep. Well, I’ve been in prayer prayer for no to no prayer for you have been fasting for two years.
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Really? Now, listen, if you are single, If you’re single have at it, have all the phone you want God you’re single. But when you jump that broom, Lord have mercy. When I jumped that, bro Lama break broke. Why? Because intimacy is a part is a part is a part, okay? It is an element of the marriage vows.
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It is element. Matter of fact, people don’t understand this. Let me go deeper here a little bit on Saturday that when you don’t consummate the marriage, it’s not a marriage. So someone can actually say, you know, if, if you have not consummated or had sex since you’ve been married, that is grounds for you can having a divorce. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That’s why I’ve written over six books on intimacy. This is one of them returned to the garden of Eden returned to the garden of Eden.
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And you can get my books on bonds and Nobles, amazon.com. Or you can contact you office and get an autograph copy with me. But again, it’s understanding that the intimacy it’s there, but a lot of couples who are married are not using it. How can you explain? Alright, how can you explain you in COVID 19? You and COVID you ain’t going nowhere.
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Alright.
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She ain’t going nowhere. So don’t it make sense? The new song nine months from now, hospitals should be quite busy with babies coming. Ain’t coming my way, but you know, you know, listen, you’re in the room, right? Right. You’re in the house. Right. You’re waking up. Okay. Okay. Can I tell you how powerful the devil is? You’re in the same house, 24 seven. And you’re touching has not increased.
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Oh,
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Oh. Did he? Did he call my business? Yes.
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So you’ve been in the house since March 20, 20 more, but you’re in, but you’re touching has not increased. Don’t you think that’s a problem? Don’t y’all think something not happening. Don’t you think that’s giving grounds in the enemy? I think it is. All right. And a lot of times couples don’t understand is that when you are failing to connect sexually, okay, you are denying your vow.
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The Bible says in James chapter four, he the do good and death and not to him. It is sin. I said it right when you are not connecting on a regular basis, it is said, now let’s go deep. Can we go DPP deep? All right. So a lot of you women that say dr. Pete, he don’t know what he’s Bring them to me.
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I’ll teach you what to do. You don’t know what he’s doing? Well, we get naked. He stopped praying,
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Stop, stop.
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You don’t know what to do. And the wife and say, listen, dr. To, I want this guy to do some work here. Listen, I’ve been a Virgin. All these years. I been fasting all these years. All of a sudden we get married and he just look at me. I want more than looking. I won’t touch it. Touch me in the morning. Touch me in the noon day. Touch me.
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Sweet.
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Oh, that’s so funny to me. Alright, so,
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So,
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So hear me, brothers is very important that you touch a lot now. Touch does it just mean sexually. Okay. Okay. When you touch, it means emotionally. That’s why this is saved. Sanctified, satisfied a podcast. I only do it every now and then, because EAP knows that we got kicked off a major Christian network because we talked about sex too much and they kicked us off in the first show.
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Why? Because people don’t want to be honest. Okay. That’s the key. Okay. You don’t want to be honest that something right. Needs to be done real raw with dr. V is brought to you by the total trainer,
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A ministry of restoration Springs, interdenominational church, Hosea four six says our people die for a lack of knowledge to that end. Dr. B has written 24 nationally published books on relationships, intimacy and theology. You can check out his library at dr. T C brentley.com. Backslash bookstore. If you or a loved one are in a difficult season in your life, marriage or personal situation, you can reach out to dr.
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Now I know you grew up not understanding the important of sex because you are sanctified. Boy, you didn’t do nothing. You were being good, but now you’re married. Okay. And your wife. All right. Okay. I’m gonna get on the, I’m gonna go to the husbands and then I’m gonna get on the wives. All right. And so the wife says, I want you to please me. Oh, they ain’t ready for this EAP. Alright, now, sir, by any means necessary pleaser.
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Yes, sir. Yes, sir. Yes, sir. Somebody sanctified woman. Ooh. They freaks. And I’m laughing in a good way because they want to be set free. Right? They want to be, they want to enjoy sex with their husbands. They want to go wild. Did they did that day? They tired of wearing that wig. That they have the weight to come off when you’re doing it. Right. Come on. Somebody did that. They want that wig, that weed to go to the side.
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Why? Because you’re doing so good. Yes sir. Yes, sir. But again, she wants you to please her, right? Because when you please her, she wants to be a lady talking about, I think he talking about sex. Jerome. We you’re talking about sex for isn’t the Bible. Okay. Genesis chapter one. All right. God told Adam and Eve be fruitful, multiply and replenish. Now some of you men believe that sex is only for children.
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Can I tell you? No, sir. It’s for pleasure because when you release, Oh Lord have mercy. I’m being nice when you release. Oh, what a wonder it is? Oh, you can sing around the bedroom. You can, you can jump. Don’t you turn don’t you talk that Facebook don’t you turn me off. Don’t you turn me off. Why? Because it’s not being done on a regular basis. So, so, so again, the reason why I wrote this book, I returned the garden of Eden because we have to change our mind frame.
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No matter what, you, no matter what you study it is, the mind frame is messed up. Then sex will follow them. The Bible says as the man thinking, so is he, and the same can be said for a married couple. That thing negatively told one another. If you have negative vibes toward your spouse, it is not crazy to see nothing but negative points of view in the bedroom. So if you’re thinking negative, if you constantly having a negative mentality, constantly thinking negative about your spouse, why are you so surprised that when you try to have activity, right?
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When you try to have activity, The reason that activity and I’m tired of these couples, having excuses, you don’t have any shoes on, get them out to them all. You don’t have no excuse to go and have fun with your friend. You don’t have any shoes to do what you want to do. So why is it every time they wants it, sex wants to happen. Someone has an excuse. All right? Just like Nike said, just do it. All right, but give me a loud and clear.
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If both parties are not being pleased in the bedroom, when the married bedroom, then you are causing the problem. Now let’s go somewhere. Again. All of my study is in the word. It’s all in. The word is on the word Hebrews. Well, pastor, you know, when I was out in the world, how was I afraid? And, and, and I just did it everywhere and anywhere. And, and okay, I hear you.
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My sister, I here you’re my brother. But guess what? If you did it, when you were unsafe and you were out there, how come you ain’t doing it now? You’re married. You all proper. I heard Lord help me. I heard one couple say, well, dr B, when we have sex, we put our clever dollars.
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Why are you having sex?
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And they said, well, we want it to be Holy or what? The scripture I’m reading. Go tell you. It was so funny to me when they told me that it wasn’t funny for the man. He said, he said it was like, I was making about hypos, making love the cleft lower. I don’t know who it is out there, but you don’t put on a amazing grace. You make him love. You put on a Christian Prague. You don’t turn on TBN.
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What you’re about to make love. Let me calm myself down. I know if giving me a little too, Hebrews 13, and for that, I’m sorry that night. I said, please not to be telling about why the turn Creflo dollar. Oh, that was funny. Okay. He was 13 and four. Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled.
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You heard. Okay. I’m in the book. Hebrews 13 and four, the bed, the bed is on the filed. Defiled means that it can be incriminated. It can be something wrong or something sinful. I’m telling you what the Bible says. The Bible says the marriage bed is on the filed.
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Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled. That means whatever you do in your bedroom have at it. Now, can I say I will? Now one thing I don’t agree that you cannot do in the bedroom. What I think is I do not agree in the bedroom. You can’t have a three way. I can’t believe he mentioned three ways. Is he a pastor? Yes. I’m a pastor. I’m also a certified marriage counselor. And you can’t have three ways. I don’t care how you turn it.
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Okay. How you move it? The answer is now you cannot have a threeway. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. And I said no. Why? Because that’s a form of adultery. Okay. And every couple who has come to me, let me drink some water on this one. Alright. I got you just a lot on this one. Every couple who I’ve counseled, who’s done a threeway every single one of them.
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I said, we wish you never did it nine because it doesn’t work. Why? Because there’s too many comparisons. There are too many things that go wrong and listen. Don’t you got another problems already. Don’t you ever enough problems already? So why are you going to add somebody else in a relationship? Why guide somebody else? I don’t think that’s smart. Isn’t that smart? I don’t think so. Yes. EAP, what are your views dr. Being about using pornography? All right.
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When it comes to porn, when it comes to anything you bring to the breadroom, you gotta be very careful because again, it could bring things, but again, couples have to be or want to God, I ain’t going to say what you can and cannot do. What I am going to say is that you gotta be on the court. Now that’s a very easy answer. Alright. Now, why did I say that? How come we didn’t say no? I’m gonna tell you why, because I’m not going to tell you what you can or cannot do in your bedroom, except for three ways, as I, as almost as always say, but this is why.
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And the reason why, another reason why I’m saying that is because couples need to have a
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Discussion. Dr. B has chosen to devote his life, to saving the institution of marriage in his book, successful marriages for successful men. He gives them the knowledge to be relationship. Ready, check it out. My ignorance in my first marriage was definitely Sean and I learned the hard way. And that’s one of the reasons why I write so many books on relationships because no one taught me. And I learned the hard way. And it is my heart to help men, especially not learn the hard way.
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So this is successful marriages for successful men, guaranteed. A guarantee of this will improve your relationship. Purchases can be made at the bookstore at dr. TC brentley.com. And they can also be purchased@amazonandbarnesandnoble.com. And now here’s more of dr. V a lot of couples.
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I talk about the sexual activity. All right. A lot of couples do not talk about what is needed in the bedroom. And let’s be honest. Okay, here I go. I’m getting jumbled. There is, let’s be honest. Some of y’all need some training. Some of y’all don’t know what that do. All right. You just look at it and look at it and you don’t do nothing. And the wife is like, what’s your looking at? And now she gets a complex. So training for some couples training is needed. You know, some say, well, what about sexual toys?
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Listen, whatever. Oh, or whatever you do. I’m saying to you, you gotta be on one accord. That’s all I’m saying. And I said, I know y’all don’t like me. That’s all right. Jesus loves you. All right. Now, why is this important? Because you’ll be surprised how many married Christian couples ain’t having sex one month, two years. Okay. You’re telling me Gaza. Happy with that.
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That, excuse me, you are in a relationship married. You’re not having any intimacy at all. You think God’s pleased with that? That you think God is pleased with that. That you’re not engaged intimately with your spouse. No, I tell you right now, God’s not believes that God read the scripture. I read the scripture that when couples are not connected on a regular basis, Satan comes in. I’m sorry. Some of y’all haven’t read the entire Bible.
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I have, you know, apparently because in the Bible, there’s a called the song of what Solomon, the song of Solomon talks, nothing but sex from a to Z. Solomon is getting his groove on the problem in Solomon. He had over 700 wives and three and 300 concubines. That’s too many women at one time. Lord have mercy. That’s an orgy that should never, ever, ever, ever that’s what all do they? Ain’t good. Okay, good. Cause he lost his mind.
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All right. But song of Solomon is where he’s given all types of points of sex, all types of points of intimacy. And again, sir, intimacy. Alright, let me get on the me one more time and then let them get on you. Intimacy for a wife
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Starts within
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And I mean you in her. Okay? I mean you’re in her brain. Okay. Again guys, if you only touch her when you want it, that’s bad. If you only touch your wife, when you want to have sex, that is bad. That’s not good because you’re making her feel well. Are you telling me he wants to talk to me? Anytime he wants to touch me is when I want to have sex, besides that you don’t talk to me. He don’t converse with me and listen, wives. Don’t like that. They want to be stimulated. Hey did I say, did I say the word stimulated?
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Did he say stimulated? Yeah. You know what notice I said it. I’m all right. It’s stimulated.
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Alright.
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And then one up conversation. They, they want to know that you’re into them, not just into their matrix. I kept it nice. They want to know that you are into them. Okay. <inaudible> they want to know that after you finish the intimacy point, you still want to connect. Hallelujah. Hallelujah. Yes, they did. You still want to be with them and guess what? You make it round to Lord have mercy.
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That’s like having dairy queen. Lord Jesus.
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Let it go.
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It’s like having dairy queen with a chocolate ice cream and chocolate sprinkles and cake crunchies and whipped cream and a cherry.
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No, not embarrassing at that. That’s good. That’s good.
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But guess what? That’s how intimacy should be. It should be the chocolate. It should be the hot phone. I’ve got a hot flush. Woo. Hot fudge. Come on. Somebody <inaudible> stimulated. See that’s what a wife wants now. Wives. I’m gonna get on you. Here I go. Wives.
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Okay. Are you coming to
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Bed? Looking like a football player. You’re coming to bed with the gear on, you know, you don’t even know lingerie.
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Good
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Lingerie, preacher. Yeah. I said laundry. Right? But listen, when you are married. Oh, Porsche. How we get laundry ready from the girl.
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Good night, ladies.
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Your husband wants to see and tease him. Well, well that to me, he don’t tell me what he liked. Well, ask him. I guarantee you, you ask him. He’ll tell you. Yeah. He may tell you nothing. Cause that’s going to be when it’s done, but it’s really learning to get more connected. Now. Now in a lot of times, people who are married, they’re having sex versus making love.
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Okay. It is a difference. Alright. When you’re making love, that’s at least, at least a 20 plus minute entanglement. That’s ain’t take them back. That’s a 20 or 30 minute entanglement that you’re having with your mate. Okay. With your spouse. Okay? With your, with your husband, your wife. Why? Because you’re taking your time. Okay. And, and, and something that women love men is massage.
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But ladies, can I tell them we like massages too? Yes, sir. Oh, yes. We love when you put our hands on your owners. Oh, we love it. Put your, put your hands on me. Put your hands, lay your hands on. Probably having too much fun here, ladies, your husband is in the prayer line. He’s saying, Hey, no one else in the prayer line, but him.
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Okay. And he say, honey, lay hands on me. <inaudible> listen, listen. I don’t want to touch in him. I want you to lay hands on me. All right. Why? Because again, intimacy, intimacy is lacking in Christian marriages. It is lacking. The reason why I know it because I see the Christian couples that come and see me. It is deplorable. It is deplorable.
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What’s happening. How much time I got EAP cannot talk about this all day. Okay? It is deplorable that you are allowing this in your life is deplorable. That you have gotten to a point that you’re not even making luck. You’re not even attempt it. You like now, now, now here I go. If you asked your wife, can I have some, that’s usually a bad stock.
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Am I saying this on? Yeah. That’s why they kicked me off. Yeah. Yeah. That’s yeah. That’s, that’s why they kicked me out. Yeah. That’s not how you actually wife to be intimate. You know how you know? I actually want to be intimate, but what you do for her. Okay. By how you control, how you, you know, you shelter her, you, you make sure she’s fine. You, you make sure her needs are met. You know, when she asks you something to be done, you do it in love.
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That’s how you do it. You don’t ask her. Can I have something tonight? No. And guess what? You don’t want something. Do you? You want all, Oh boy, I have you on that way. You don’t want some, ah, I just don’t want to feed them. No, no, no, no. I want all, Oh, okay. Let me calm myself down. All right. My time is up. I’m going to stop. Right? I told y’all every now and then we come on and we talk about this because it is neat.
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And if you want more help, you know where to call me at and get it done. Alright, EPA is going to take over and we’ll see you next time. And I hope you were blessed and encouraged and got some wisdom the next time.
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