Focus on the Marriage, not just the Wedding!
Many couples will invest vast amounts of money into their wedding, ensuring all are perfect for that ONE day, i.e., the process of the ceremony, rings, music, food and cake, preparing all in great order. Costs are often of no true factor to have that very perfect day.
How many couples have been hoodwinked into only focusing on events leading to the wedding day, but forgetting about the important details of marriage thereafter? If couples take the same energy and passion that is placed into their wedding day, and house that same synergy into their marriages, then we may begin to witness the “until death do us part” again in this day and age.
The majority of wedding day events is successful because of the time, planning and money that are driven into the wedding day. Couples may place all of their eggs in that one basket of having a wedding day that many may speak on. Once couples are married, however, many times the passion, energy, and harmony come out of the relationship and the marriage becomes confusingly scrambled. The couples are no longer working with compassion toward a “major event”. The marriage there after should be the major event that all are working toward!
Marriage is work and play. Most couples focus on the play and not the work– the wedding day was fun! The wedding was full of energy! The wedding was full of smiles and love filled the air. Yet for many within the year, the thrill is gone. Why is that?
I, personally, advocate every couple to have a marriage therapist in their lives. We are certain to have a primary care physician for ourselves and our families, but we do not have a primary care consultant for our marriages. We often wonder why marriages fail. This could be mainly due to the lack of attention, energy, focus, and counseling that is needed to help facilitate the interweaving of man and woman into each other’s worlds. I hope and pray this mind frame changes in order to have a more perfect union. We can succeed in relationships one to the other. We can have prosperous marriages!
